Yes, even though I have dated a lot of guys. ( I’m not proud of the long list) but yeah i still get surprises that no matter how many times I have broken up with a guy. They never come back when I want them to.
It is totally when I have moved on they walk back into my life. Before, I would get paranoid and think maybe they were watching me. Maybe, they could see me from wherever they were or they had super powers or something. Maybe they got a notification saying she has moved on. Go get her !! Right now!!! So you can make her remember the wounds and the hurt. Funny thing is they haven’t change. Still possess those reasons why you broke up in the first place. Some just come back just to show up once in a while, to see if you still have feelings towards them. They just want to know. The joy I guess they get from it. I had an ex who I knew the exact time and period he would show up. Saying he wanted me back and if I said no, he would get angry and say mean stuff. Tell me he would never come back.
But then after a series of repeated behaviour, I figured it’s just going to be same old same old. I just had to say no then have him flip and say the same thing, then dissappear. It’s so crazy how I use to get so manipulated.
I thought them coming back meant that things would be different. But, say no to an ex and he would remind you exactly why it didn’t work out. I’m sure everyone experiences this. If you haven’t. I don’t know why.
But, I have pretty much grown up so much to the extent that I don’t take back exes. When you leave. You go forever. There is no way back to me. It’s just a one time chance to get it right. Experience is the best teacher.