I feel like it has been a while I blogged. Though I know it has just been two days that I didn’t post anything, due to so many latest things happening in my life. But anyways life has been great I guess.
So, one of my best friends, someone I have been close to for a long while. Upto 4 years, right from the start of college. We have been really tight buddies including a group of three other close pals. We meet up, have fun, chill at eachothers home, we have had awesome sleepovers and nights out together. That is how close our gang is. Recently, one of my besties started dating a guy. You could say it is probably her first ever relationship. Yes, I know it is exciting and a beautiful thing to finally meet someone and build a relationship together with that person.
Relationships are amazing and brings the best out of people. But, all I can say is that relationship has changed her. She has gotten so wierd. Her boyfriend is so possessive and controlling that he gets angry when she spends time with us ( Her friends that have been with her before him).
When he calls, it doesn’t ring for one second and she rushes to pickup the call. She says he would get angry with her. We have tried telling her that it is wrong allowing him control her life. He gets suspicious of her. Doesn’t trust her. She basically can’t tell him she is spending the day with her friends, he would flip and get jealous or angry.
Yes such an insecure guy!!! On her birthday, we and her cousins were at her place and helping celebrate her birthday. He fought with her on the call and was so selfish. (she got bitten by a dog that day and when she told him crying on the call explaining why she couldnt talk to him on the call at that moment, all he could say is she was faking it). I seriously don’t understand what sort of person he is. I’m sad that my friend is being taken for granted. We as her friends have tried spelling out this bad behaviour but she is so blinded and manipulated.
She keeps saying he reads the bible. They pray together.
But, that doesn’t make his behaviour acceptable. A person who loves you wouldn’t treat you that way. Also, someone who follows God’s way wouldn’t act that way either.
A relationship is not one way. It has to be two people helping to improve eachother not a fight for control or one dominating the other partner.
I have never seen her change so much in the span of time she has been with him. Change is okay when it is good but change from good to bad is just not the right kind of change I was expecting. The thing is she says every relationship is not perfect but you have to make it work when you love the person you are with. Yes no doubt, no relationship is perfect but it takes two people to make it work. All I see is one person taking advantage of the other person all in the name of love. The relationship is working all at the cost of her hapiness. I went to her house recently, she was just talking to him 24/7. She hardly had time to talk to me. She didn’t seem happy. She didn’t eat for 2 days when I stayed at her place. She locked herself in her room. I literally became sheldon from big bang theory when he knocked on penny’s door, the only difference is my penny didn’t respond and just stayed indoor. At some point, I was really scared but felt helpless because her mom and dad weren’t home ( they went on a vacation).
Now, all I see is someone being oppressed and isn’t strong enough to detach herself from this toxic relationship.
As a friend I will try to be there for her and tell her the truth always. But at the end of the day, it is her decision to make. I hope and pray that God gives her the strength to see the truth behind all his lies. It hurts to feel that she is distant. 😦 😦 😦
How does one help a friend in such a situation? Because I want to help her get out of it. If only she would accept my helping hand.