When she says no, she means it.

This is something boys, men don’t still understand. When a woman says no. She means no. She isn’t just being shy. She isn’t trying to pretend. No, she isn’t trying to hide the fact that she secretly likes you or want you to touch her body. She simply doesn’t want you to have sex with you.

Is it right for a guy in a relationship with a girl to not listen when his girlfriend says no to him. When has it been right to forcefully have sex without consent. Even when it’s a relationship or marriage involved.

It isn’t right. It is called Molestation. It is called rape. And Yes, they do happen in a relationship as well as when it involves married couples.

When she tells you no. You try to kiss her then slowly grab her breast. She pushes your hands away. But, you try to to touch her down. She tells you no. You place your body on top of her and try to push youself against her.

How is it so hard to understand that she doesn’t want you to do any of that. Yes. You molested her. You disrespected her. You made her feel like she had no say with her body.

Today, many girls, women are victims of molestation and rape in their relationships and marriages and don’t even know it. We refrain from calling it those names because it’s someone we know. We love. We trust. But, when is it okay for people we love and trust to not respect our bodies, our words. When is it okay to be victims of sexual violation just because it’s not a stranger.

Yes, she trusted you. She was at your place. She is married to you. You live together.

We need to educate ourselves about what is right and wrong.

Most of us stay silent. When we shouldn’t. But what is to be done when such happens.

The difficult question we mostly run away from. Do you leave a spouse, boyfriend that constantly violates you sexually? What do we do when such a thing happens?

In my opinion, it is to leave. Seperate yourself from that person. If you aren’t treated right. Never settle for anything lesser than you deserve.

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