That embarrassing moment when……

I’m pretty we have all been there, where you see someone you know…could be a classmate, a co-worker, an acquaintance, your friend’s friend who you got introduced to few days or a month back etc etc. Yeah, that moment when you see a person of that relation at a bar or at school, in church, on the street, at a party. And you keep thinkin to yourself, do I say hello or not. Will the person ignore? I want to time myself right so I don’t get into any snubbing embarrassment or what if the person is a snub? What if they might not recognise me? Yeah. A friend of mine told me I think too much but everyone does. 

I recently ran into a ex-classmate in school. So normally we say hello to eachother. But, this time around. I was with a friend and she was approaching me. I decided to say hello not to come across as a snub. I waved at her and our eyes met. She then walked past me. And I was so embarrassed. Though she was on the phone but I kept thinking our eyes met. You saw me!!! Like show some acknowledgment girl!!! I said hello just to be polite and you ignore!!! This is one of the reasons I hate saying hello to people and then sometimes I am accused of being attitude-ish. I later on told a guy friend of mine who knew her and he was like why do girls think too much about little things and I’m like you don’t know how it feels when someone does that to you in public. It is like the whole world stopped and stared at your awkward moment. They noticed it. They made fun of you. They saw you being ignored. Haha. I guess I exagerated that a bit. But,  yeah it does feel that way. Like as the person ignored you everyone around stared right into your eyes. Like pause, stare, awkward, back to reality. 

Anyways, later on I met that same girl on my way out of collehe and she called my name and said hello! Grace. How are you? And I was like I’m fine. So,  I guess either she didn’t see me and I thought she did or she realised she ignored me, made up for it. Either ways I felt like I overreared in my head lol. 

Later on, I explained to the other friend of mine about the incident and she narrated her bad experience. So, hers was pretty much embareasing.  One of her claas mate was at a party she went to. As usual we try to show that we are not snubbish. She decided to wave at her classmate who was walking right towards her. She smiles and waved a hello and the girl was smiling & waving back. But, only a matter of few seconds the girl walked past her and then she realises she was smiling& waving at someone behind her. My friend was with her boyfriend. She felt so embarrassed to the core. 

So I guess there are some people who are snubs. Sometimes, they might just not have seen you or are preoccupied with things in their head. Because my bestie then would do the same thing. I would be waving at her and she wouldn’t wave back even though I was few distance in front of me. I would get pissed and tell her she was a snub. But, then she explained that she couldn’t see properly if someone was far off from her. She wore glasses. So from then on I just didn’t wave at her. I just walked towards her direction and meet her at a close point. 

Do share your experiences if you ever had an embarrassing encounter like this. πŸ˜πŸ˜€I would love to hear some to know that maybe I’m not wierd to think so much about stuff like this. Im pretty sure I’m not. I’m sure many of you guys have funny ones to tell. 

The liebster award !!!!! Another award to inspire and motivate me.

Hello peeps, so I have another award up on my shelve. After my first award ( the mystery blogger award). I didn’t think of getting another yet. This sure came as a pleasant surprise to me. I’m so lucky. I feel appreciated and blessed that people relate to my blogs. I would love to thank hopelessblog for this nomination. I am sorry I took so long to accept it. I just wanted to be free enough to sit and do justice to it. I remember the first post I came across from this amazing blog. It was an inspiring one. I love blogs that share emotions, inspires and content that various people can relate to. This blog has the whole package. ❀ ❀ ❀ Do check it out. And don’t forget to follow. 

So the rules are as following:
1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you and display the award.
2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger gives you.
3. Give 11 random facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 11 blogs.
5. Notify those blogs of the nomination.
6. Give them 11 questions to answer.


1) What is the first moment you remember from your life?
The first moment I remember from my life would be when I contested for the beauty contest at school and I won. I felt so beautiful. It was such an amazing feeling. I felt out of the world being crowned the queen of my school. ( I know very high school stuff lol but that meant so much to me then)

2) What was your last milestone?
 My last milestone would be getting over a breakup. It was pretty bad and I had to get myself back together and move on. Accept life and be strong.

3) What is your favorite cuisine?
Prawns fried rice. I just love prawns. In fact, I love seafood. Fish. Crabs. Etc ❀ ❀

4) If you could give a speech to the whole world what would you talk about?
LoL. There is a reason why I am a blogger. I prefer to write than speak to so many people at once. But yeah even though I would be having a lit of anxiety and my heart probably trying to crawl out of my chest. If I had to give a speech to the whole world I would talk about accepting our differences. Loving eachother. Promoting unity. Stop war. We don’t need war. We don’t need to kill eachother to make a point. 

5)Do you like fried or baked?
Fried. Fried. Fried.

6)Brown or white rice?
Though brown rice is healthy but I love me some white rice. Lol. ❀ πŸ˜‰

7)Favorite Disney movie?
Hmm. This one is hard. There are so many good ones. But if I had to choose. Hmm. Very hard. I guess I would be partial to frozen. And shrek. And tangled. And beauty and the beast. Lol. πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ I like varieties. I’m bad at choosing.

8)Who’s your favourite author?
My favorite author would be Paulo Coelho.  I just love all his books. He is an amazing writer. He knows how to get me glued and take me to his own world of realisation and imagination. 

9) What kind of magazines do you read? 
I don’t really read a lot of magazines but if I ever had a a magazine in my hand. It would be fashion magazines. Celebrity gossips lol. Etc 

10) If you could go anywhere where would you go?
I would love to go to Greece.  I’m fascinated with its beautiful people. The ancient structures and houses there. I would love to exeprience the food and Their culture ❀ ❀

11) If you had your own mythical animal which one would it be? (Animals from books count)
A unicorn.

11 random facts:-

1) My friends and I would fry snails that we found at my grandma’s garden during rainy season. We would throw them on the walls to break their shells. It was those crazy childhood days.

2) I have a huge snake phobia. I can’t look at them. I can’t see them. I get the ebigibis everytime. 

3) I can’t eat eggs when they are just boiled. I literally keep them for maybe 10 7-8 hours in their shells after they have been bolied. I don’t know why I find them tastier when it’s been kept from morning to evening. Lol. Wierd me. I don’t actually like the smell when it’s just been boiled.

4) I love the taste of soap that is green and has lime in it. I actually use to lick soaps. Yeah, and I use to keep ome in my bag so that I had easy access too. But don’t panic. I stopped doing it. But I still have the urge but I try to Control it.

5) I am good at knitting bags.

6) I can’t swim.

7) I am a sucker for animation movies.

8) I love the smell of wet sand.

9) I finished wathing game of thrones season 1-6 in three days and all the episodes of 13 reasons why in 2 days. I have no patience for suspense.

10) I one day plan on establishing my own orphanage home. 

11) I would love to have a panda as a pet and also I love pugs. They are the cutest little thing. ❀ ❀

Blogs I nominate fo this award.

1) mathew mulinge

2) bowalexo



5)elan mudrow



8)jee lo

9)of all things beautiful 


Kindly answer the same questions above. Just edit my answers and replace them with yours. πŸ™‚ ❀

Have an amazing day guys. Hope to get many more awards like this. Do check out the blogs nominated above. God bless. ❀ ❀ <3.

Grace balogun. Signing off. πŸ™‚ πŸ˜‰ 

Lots of love. ❀

My friend’s possessive boyfriend.

I feel like it has been a while I blogged. Though I know it has just been two days that I didn’t post anything, due to so many latest things happening in my life. But anyways life has been great I guess. 
So, one of my best friends, someone I have been close to for a long while. Upto 4 years, right from the start of college. We have been really tight buddies including  a group of three other close pals. We meet up, have fun, chill at eachothers home, we have had awesome sleepovers and nights out together. That is how close our gang is.  Recently, one of my besties started dating a guy. You could say it is probably her first ever relationship. Yes, I know it is exciting and a beautiful thing to finally meet someone and build a relationship together with that person.

Relationships are amazing and brings the best out of people. But, all I can say is that relationship has changed her. She has gotten so wierd. Her boyfriend is so possessive and controlling that he gets angry when she spends time with us ( Her friends that have been with her before him).


When he calls, it doesn’t ring for one second and she rushes to pickup the call. She says he would get angry with her. We have tried telling her that it is wrong allowing him control her life. He gets suspicious of her. Doesn’t trust her. She basically can’t tell him she is spending the day with her friends, he would flip and get jealous or angry. 

Yes such an insecure guy!!! On her birthday, we and her cousins were at her place and helping celebrate her birthday. He fought with her on the call and was so selfish. (she got bitten by a dog that day and when she told him crying on the call explaining why she couldnt talk to him on the call at that moment, all he could say is she was faking it). I seriously don’t understand what sort of person he is. I’m sad that my friend is being taken for granted. We as her friends have tried spelling out this bad behaviour but she is so blinded and manipulated. 

She keeps saying he reads the bible. They pray together. 

But, that doesn’t make his behaviour acceptable. A person who loves you wouldn’t treat you that way. Also, someone who follows God’s way wouldn’t act that way either. 

A relationship is not one way. It has to be two people helping to improve eachother not a fight for control or one dominating the other partner. 

I have never seen her change so much in the span of time she has been with him. Change is okay when it is good but change from good to bad is just not the right kind of change I was expecting. The thing is she says every relationship is not perfect but you have to make it work when you love the person you are with. Yes no doubt, no relationship is perfect but it takes two people to make it work. All I see is one person taking advantage of the other person all in the name of love. The relationship is working all at the cost of her hapiness. I went to her house recently,  she was just talking to him 24/7. She hardly had time to talk to me. She didn’t seem happy. She didn’t eat for 2 days when I stayed at her place. She locked herself in her room. I literally became sheldon from big bang theory when he knocked on penny’s door, the only difference is my penny didn’t respond and just stayed indoor. At some point, I was really scared but felt helpless because her mom and dad weren’t home ( they went on a vacation). 

Now, all I see is someone being oppressed and isn’t strong enough to detach herself from this toxic relationship.


As a friend I will try to be there for her and tell her the truth always. But at the end of the day, it is her decision to make. I hope and pray that God gives her the strength to see the truth behind all his lies. It hurts to feel that she is distant. 😦 😦 😦
How does one help a friend in such a situation? Because I want to help her get out of it.  If only she would accept my helping hand.

Mystery Blogger Award. Β My first award.


This Is my first ever nominatin for an award. Being a new blogger. What a way to keep me motivated and inspired. I started my blog about a month ago and I must say it has been amazing. Getting to know different inspiring bloggers and their wonderful blogs. I am blessed to be a part of this community. I would love to thank Ally L. mare for nominating me. He is an awesome blogger. An amazing writer. A publisher. He has published two poetry e-books. Do check out his blog and if you haven’t followed him. Do it !!

β€œMystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion. – Okoto Enigma

I would love to thank Okoto Enigma for this amazing award that helps motivate bloggers to continue to inspire, helps bring bloggers together as a united community and also to support them. She is an amazing blogger and such an inspiration. Do check out her blog and follow her.


  • Display the award logo/image on your blog
  • List the rules.
  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to the nominator’s blog.
  • Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  • Answer 5 questions from the nominator
  • Nominate 10 -20 bloggers
  • Notify your nominees by leaving the nomination link in the β€œcomment” of their blog
  • Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice, with one weird or funny question (specify)
  • Share the link(s) to your best post(s)

Three things about me:

  • I am extremely competitive. 
  • I belly dance. πŸ™‚ πŸ˜‰ ❀
  • I talk really loud and yes I have been asked once if I had loud speakers in my throat. Haha. 


1) Do you have a plan for everything or you just go with the flow? 

    Ans: Well, I try my best to have plans for certain things. But, definitely not everything. Most of the time, I do find myself going with the flow. Taking life as it comes. I do try my best though to have a plan for important things that I would want to achieve in life.

    2) Have you ever thought of the things               that made you special?

    Ans: Yes, my mind. The way I think. My hair definitely. My personality. My smile.

     3) If you plan to go for a movie, who is                in your mind to invite first?

    Ans: My best friend most definitely.

     4) Last embarrassing moment you had?

    Ans: I went for a singing audition and literally sounded like a frog lol.

    5) What do you think we need in order               to make the world better.

    Ans: We need love. Peace. Unity. If we all loved one another, live peacefully together and be united. The world would definitely be a better place to be in.

    My Nominees:

      My Questions:

      1. What inspires you to write ?
      2. If you were given an opportunity to make a change in the world ?What change would that be ? and why?
      3. What are your views on afterlife?
      4. What is the craziest thing you have done?
      5. What would you do if someone picked their nose in front of you? (haha) 

        My Best Post:

        This are some of my best post. Do check them out. 






        I couldn’t possibly Nominate everyone. But, if I didn’t. You are still amazing. Be you. Keep on writting. Keep inspiring. πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀

        Finally barbie dolls we can all relate to.Β 

        Yes !!!!! Im so thrilled !!! Though i’m too old to play with barbie dolls anymore but as a child I didnt really care or saw it as anything except a doll that i could dress up and do crazy childish things with. This takes me back to the silly stuff i did. Well we all have been there ( I actually fed my dolls thinking they could eat , now that i think of it i was really wierd to think that way lol ). I wish they had thought about this before. Instead of creating one certain standard of beauty which was western looking. This definitely was the birth of stereotypes. Not having to see yourself in a barbie collection for sure gave the views that your look was inferior. With the media always glamourising this same notion too. Creating a doll for young kids need to be thought about with serious thoughts. Well, I must say I am pretty happy with the new diverse barbie collection. We can finally all relate to barbies because they don’t just have skinny bodies or straight hair anymore.  Yes, I have curly hair. And yes I am thrilled to see a barbie with curly hair. 

        A barbe with an afro. A chinese looking barbie. Basically they have done a great job. Now our future children can pick up barbies that look like them and feel beautiful to be the way they are. 

        The collections of barbie include all shapes, hair color, hair texture, facial features etc etc. Way to go people !!! How can we forget ken dolls who look just absolute perfection. The nerd ken, the boy-next-door ken, the dark skin/so-hot ken doll, the corporate ken doll etc etc. Yayyayayayyayayyayay.  I don’t know why I’m so excited. But yeah. I am excited. I feel like going to buy all of them. Well, I probably wouldn’t but I am tempted lol. 

        Beauty is not in the shape you carry. Beauty is not in the color you have. Nor the hair type. It is within. And I’m glad that barbie is changing it’s views too and encouraging beauty in diversity.

        A teenage boy raped, burnt, beaten for hours for being gay.

        T-Nhaveen, an 18 year old teenager was declared dead after sucumbing to his injuries. He was declared brain dead. Attacked by a group of school bullies outside a burger shop in southern suburb of George town in malaysia. He suffered brain damage before he died. A boy who had passion for music and was at his peak time for university was taken too young. 

        Though his sexuality hasn’t been revealed. But, sources say that he was bullied in school for being too soft and less macho. The attackers were a group of young men aged 16- 18 years old. He faced penetration in his anus likely to have been from a blunt object, burnt on his back and wounds to his groin. 

        How does someone sexuality or physical built make him worthy of such horrying treatment. Everytime I hear stories of such inhuman behaviour. I am still surprised at how humans can be so cruel. Why are teenagers heartless ? What are kids being taught at home or at school? Why are we not standing up for other people? It’s shocking that this happened in a public place but no one came to his aid. No one is bothered about a young child’s life, his family. It brings tears to my eyes. 

        What is more sad is that it is illegal to be gay in malaysia. Lgbt rights don’t make any difference there. It is even allowed to commit such crimes. Does being human not count for something ? Though 5 of his attackers were arrested and 3 are left to be caught. I wonder if justice will be served in a country that considers it illegal to be anything other than straight.

        My deepest sympathy goes to his devastated family. I wish justice for them in heaven and on earth. 

        Bullies need to be stopped. In schools and everywhere else. People need to be alert and observant.  When you spot a bully, stop them before they take an innocent child’s life. Bullies need to be punished and not taken lightly. Even if it’s in school. Do not let a bully be left unattended without being corrected because this is what they might end up doing. Taking away someone’s loving child. Stop a bully, when you see one. Don’t be a bully too.

        Cruel children left dog to die after covering him in glue.

        I still get shocked when I hear something like this happen. I wonder why? What has this animal done to deserve this traumatic treatment. More suprising when it is from kids. Like how were this kids raised by their parents to be able to feel nothing when they cause another living thing to suffer. What are their parents teaching them at home? 

        Pascal was found at an industrial estate in instantly, Turkey. He was left to die after being dipped from head to toe in glue and thrown into a mud pit. A stray dog left to die without any valid reason as to what crime he had done. He was traumatised and alone. 

        He was found by He’Art of rescue charity where he was nursed back to life. A month of being rescued, Pascal had an amazing fast recover and is being showered with lots of love from the staff of He’Art of rescue. Definitely there are angels still in this world. 

        Also, a fighter. Pascal has fought his way out of Parva. He is fully cured. What an amazing fighter. He has also found a new friend and is getting back his energy. A beautiful family is been looked out for him. 

        I’m so thankful that someone tooked care of him. Everyone deserves a chance at life. Stop hurting animals. Parents get involved in the lives of your children to know what they are doing. I pray for justice and peace in this our crazy world. Please do send your support in little ways you can to the He’Art of rescue charity for the awesome work they are doing. 

        Why a woman shouldn’t say yes to living in relationships.

        Yes, this is to all my ladies out there. I just want to share my views on living in relationships in a woman’s perspective. Hey hey, I’m living with my boo. That’s oh! You are so lucky!. Why ladies? Just why? I’m pretty sure there is no lady out there that hasn’t dreamt of what she would wear on her wedding day. What her dress would look like? How her perfect dream man would propose to her in a fairytale arrangement. 

        No doubt that we women think about this. Now I know some ladies love the fact that they can takecare of their man, cook for him, be the perfect woman he could ever want. But, why are you in a hurry woman ?? Why you taking the role of a wife before he popped the question or even think of getting married to you? 

        This just amazes me. Yes, some might get lucky. But most of us just sit and wait. And wait. And wait.  Till we get past 10 abortions, bruised eyes, emotionally drained, manipulation, physically spent etc etc to finally see clearly that we have been wasting years praying that he would pop the question. Finally when you break up with him. He gets married to his perfect dream girl in just months of dating. 

        Ironic, you think. But, why would you think he was going to marry you in the first place. When you put him in a comfortable and the best position ever. He gets his regular sex when needed. He gets you to cook for him. Etc You shown him your self worth is just nothing but if he treated you like his wife, he didn’t have to marry you. Since you already got him acting like your husband without popping the question. Then why you get mad when he hasn’t asked you to marry him? Then don’t get upset if he pops the question to someone who he thinks actually wants to get matried.  Isn’t it so obvious that he thinks you dont care about the ring on the finger. Stop decieving yourself if you do care about him putting a ring on your finger and move out of the house. Asap. Ladies, Don’t let him dry you up that you have no more surprises left. A man wants a woman that would make he run the miles. That wouldn’t be easy. That would respect herself. Have values. A woman that knows what she wants. And what is this generation turning into.? I have a friend. She is 19 year old. Already living with her 25 year old boyfriend. Like girlfriend, you have 25 years till forever ( I guess the age women start thinking of marriage or get married.  ) yes till forever to be a wifey. Why rush into it so soon? Having risk of getting yourself pregnant and abortion is the next option because you are too scared to be a young mama.

         And your boyfriend is too scared to be a father. But funnily both of y’all are not scared to have sex. How do you want to live everyday getting pregnancy scares. Its stressful. A man that is okay with you aborting a baby has no intention of marrying you. 

        If you made the mistake once, don’t make the same mistake twice. He isn’t the right man for you. Break up with him. Ladies, we need to stop being so easy. Hold yourself well. Because at the end of the day a man will marry someone who he respects. Be carefull. Stay safe. Do what is right.

        Why do ex’s come back when you already moved on.?

        Yes, even though I have dated a lot of guys. ( I’m not proud of the long list) but yeah i still get surprises that no matter how many times I have broken up with a guy. They never come back when I want them to. 

        It is totally when I have moved on they walk back into my life. Before, I would get paranoid and think maybe they were watching me. Maybe, they could see me from wherever they were or they had super powers or something. Maybe they got a notification saying she has moved on. Go get her !! Right now!!! So you can make her remember the wounds and the hurt. Funny thing is they haven’t change. Still possess those reasons why you broke up in the first place. Some just come back just to show up once in a while, to see if you still have feelings towards them. They just want to know. The joy I guess they get from it. I had an ex who I knew the exact time and period he would show up. Saying he wanted me back and if I said no, he would get angry and say mean stuff. Tell me he would never come back. 

        But then after a series of repeated behaviour, I figured it’s just going to be same old same old. I just had to say no then have him flip and say the same thing, then dissappear. It’s so crazy how I use to get so manipulated. 

        I thought them coming back meant that things would be different. But, say no to an ex and he would remind you exactly why it didn’t work out. I’m sure everyone experiences this. If you haven’t. I don’t know why. 

        But, I have pretty much grown up so much to the extent that I don’t take back exes. When you leave. You go forever. There is no way back to me. It’s just a one time chance to get it right. Experience is the best teacher. 

        What to do when someone tells you they don’t want to commit?

        This is very serious problem most people face. I have been there too. Being a victim. Confused as to how to react. What do I say to that person? What should I do ? How do I get out of such a scary situation?.


        It’s a very stressful scenario because you like the person and don’t want to lose them. You are looking for ways to change their mind. Especially if you are someone that likes to know where you stand in a relationship. When someone says they don’t want to commit, it brings forth so much of negative thoughts and anxiety. You feel like you are bring rejected. When faced with such situation. You should do the following things. 
        1) Do not think you can change their mind.

        This is the common mistake people do when they are faced with a partner that doesn’t want to commit. They think they can change their decision to commit. The answer is no. You cannot. Don’t try to. They will commit when they want to and you cannot make them. So stop thinking about changing their mind.

        2) Sex is a no-no.

        If you think having sex with someone that doesn’t want to commit to you will help the situation. You are just deceiving yourself. At the end of the day you will feel used and depressed. So stay away from having sex with that person. You don’t want to get more attached to get really hurt later on.

        3) Don’t change what you believe in.

        If someone says they don’t want to Commit. You must let them be. Yes it would hurt. But don’t try to sacrifice your feelings and emotions because you don’t want to lose that person. Believe in yourself. You want commitment. Stick to it.  Don’t try to change that because you are scared you might lose them. Wanting commitment is not a crime. You are not wierd.

        4) Move on

        Its easier said than done. But it isn’t impossible. Yes the sad truth is you both want different things. It’s best to move on. Find someone who wants a committed relationship just like you do. Leave the no commitment guy or girl. Let them carry that baggage to someone who is willing to go on that journey with them. 

        5) Don’t be fooled easily.

        A person who doesn’t want commitment might like you and still want to be with you. Or some might just want to have sex with you and move on. Make sure you don’t be fooled. There are pretenders that would act like they want to be committed just to have sex with you. So stick to what they told you first. That is, they don’t want a committed relationship. A sudden change shouldn’t make you be fooled. Be careful.

        6) Make sure to tell them you are a commitment person.

        You must tell them that you can no longer date them because you believe in commitment. You can’t go on that journey with them. And wish them all the best in life. 

        7) Close that chapter.

        Make sure you shut it down Completely. Don’t encourage any behaviour that would make them think you still want them. Be firm. Approach them with a strong mind. Make sure they know that you are a closed chapter. There is no going back.

        8) Beware of the line “let’s see where it goes”

        You know you are someone who cannot wait any longer. This line doesn’t work for you. Don’t think otherwise. Let’s see where it goes is the most laziest reply anyone can say to you. Tell them you are not willing to see where it goes. You are moving on. Leave them to the next person after you, to carry that baggage.

        I hope I have been a little bit helpful. Life is too short to be crying over spilled milk. A person who is scared of committing just doesn’t see you as someone worth having a relationship with. Value yourself enough to not settle for less.