Why a woman shouldn’t say yes to living in relationships.

Yes, this is to all my ladies out there. I just want to share my views on living in relationships in a woman’s perspective. Hey hey, I’m living with my boo. That’s oh! You are so lucky!. Why ladies? Just why? I’m pretty sure there is no lady out there that hasn’t dreamt of what she would wear on her wedding day. What her dress would look like? How her perfect dream man would propose to her in a fairytale arrangement. 

No doubt that we women think about this. Now I know some ladies love the fact that they can takecare of their man, cook for him, be the perfect woman he could ever want. But, why are you in a hurry woman ?? Why you taking the role of a wife before he popped the question or even think of getting married to you? 

This just amazes me. Yes, some might get lucky. But most of us just sit and wait. And wait. And wait.  Till we get past 10 abortions, bruised eyes, emotionally drained, manipulation, physically spent etc etc to finally see clearly that we have been wasting years praying that he would pop the question. Finally when you break up with him. He gets married to his perfect dream girl in just months of dating. 

Ironic, you think. But, why would you think he was going to marry you in the first place. When you put him in a comfortable and the best position ever. He gets his regular sex when needed. He gets you to cook for him. Etc You shown him your self worth is just nothing but if he treated you like his wife, he didn’t have to marry you. Since you already got him acting like your husband without popping the question. Then why you get mad when he hasn’t asked you to marry him? Then don’t get upset if he pops the question to someone who he thinks actually wants to get matried.  Isn’t it so obvious that he thinks you dont care about the ring on the finger. Stop decieving yourself if you do care about him putting a ring on your finger and move out of the house. Asap. Ladies, Don’t let him dry you up that you have no more surprises left. A man wants a woman that would make he run the miles. That wouldn’t be easy. That would respect herself. Have values. A woman that knows what she wants. And what is this generation turning into.? I have a friend. She is 19 year old. Already living with her 25 year old boyfriend. Like girlfriend, you have 25 years till forever ( I guess the age women start thinking of marriage or get married.  ) yes till forever to be a wifey. Why rush into it so soon? Having risk of getting yourself pregnant and abortion is the next option because you are too scared to be a young mama.

 And your boyfriend is too scared to be a father. But funnily both of y’all are not scared to have sex. How do you want to live everyday getting pregnancy scares. Its stressful. A man that is okay with you aborting a baby has no intention of marrying you. 

If you made the mistake once, don’t make the same mistake twice. He isn’t the right man for you. Break up with him. Ladies, we need to stop being so easy. Hold yourself well. Because at the end of the day a man will marry someone who he respects. Be carefull. Stay safe. Do what is right.